How I grieve for my dead husband

How I grieve for my dead husband

article, Grief, Love

Last Thursday, my husband of almost a quarter century dropped dead from one of those “widowmaker” heart attacks. It was a shock but could have been so much worse than it was; I may write later about being grateful for small blessings. A lot of people have been...
Pain sinks deep its claws

Pain sinks deep its claws

article, Grief

CW: Really big emotions, reference to abuse and generational trauma It’s not just the amount of Stuff. It’s not just about missing someone, realizing anew that I won’t be able to see them or pick up the phone to share a funny thing the kids did today. It’s the...
Untethered but still real

Untethered but still real

article, Grief

CW: Cancer, death (but not from the cancer) My mother-in-law was a paper hoarder. She had difficulty identifying what was important, so she kept everything. I’d come over and help her match up EOBs with medical bills, discarding the boilerplate FYI’s and ads and empty...
Okay, but what *can* you do?

Okay, but what *can* you do?

Contribution to the world

Sometimes the world can feel incredibly overwhelming. Media — both social and mass — seem to thrive on manufactured Drama and Outrage. “Isn’t it awful?” “Aren’t they terrible?” “Everything is burning down and we need to fight to survive!” Except that Life is so much...